Dowry is a curse...

Dowry is a curse 

The practice of taking dowry is very common in the subcontinent, especially in Pakistan and India.  Boys demand dowry from a girl on her marriage.  This ritual is considered very special in marriage.

 And many boys set some conditions and demands for marriage and if they can't be met, they refuse girls.  For example, house, car, big checks, etc. and considering these conditions, they do not even think about whether they are permissible or not, halal or haraam.

 Today, from high families to middle class families, all parents educate their children, especially boys.  Now, whether the boy is less educated or more educated due to his lack of interest in education, in both cases the boy's family asks for dowry and if they do not get it, the girl becomes a victim of ridicule and taunts from the in-laws.

 Dowry includes sofa sets, various types of alcoholic beverages, utensils, etc.
 Even if the parents don't have that much money, whenever they sweat their blood, go through the stages of debt and prepare many dowry items for their daughter, so that their daughter will be married to her in-laws for the rest of her life. 

 Don't listen to taunts.  When a boy earns money and brings a girl as an honor to his family after marriage, it is his responsibility and in that case he should refuse to take dowry. However, the parents are happy considering their status.  You can give as much as you want and as much as you want to give to your daughter.

 Dowry is a thing of the past. After settling a boy's relationship, by showing any of their actions on different occasions, they force the girls to do the same for them.  For example, Eid is celebrated for both boys and girls.  This is one of the rituals of the subcontinent.  It doesn't matter if the gift is small or big, but if the girl gives the boy a small gift for Eid, things start to go wrong.

 The same thing happens with birthdays and other occasions.  These are usually the families who have more money and whose lifestyle is not only middle class but it becomes a mental anguish for the girl and the parents. 

 Whether it is Eid-ul-Fitr, Eid-ul-Adha or birthday, the gift may be small but it should include love and sincerity.  If you have more money then you can give as much as you want with your love.

 And even if less money is not given out of compulsion, it should not be made a big problem and the relationship should not be disrupted or eliminated.  What has been said so far is a fact of life and my observations, feelings can also say. 

 This practice of giving dowry is not found anywhere except in Pakistan and India.  Dowry is actually a Hindu ritual.  In fact, they do not give the girl a share in the inheritance and to compensate her, they give the girl a large dowry at the time of marriage.

 But Islam has made it obligatory for a girl to have a share in inheritance.
 In the name of dowry, we have made marriage difficult.  This beautiful and beautiful relationship in the name of dowry and in many ways has become a mental anguish for the girl's parents.

  People say that dowry is the Sunnah of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave some essentials to his daughter Fatima on the occasion of his marriage.

 But since Hazrat Ali was the cousin of the Holy Prophet (sws) and since childhood
 Hazrat Ali was under the patronage of the Holy Prophet (sws) so he was equal to the son of the Holy Prophet (sws).

  From his childhood, he was responsible for all his expenses.  So the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave them some necessary equipment as a guardian to build a new house.

 I would like to add here the narration of the goods that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave to his daughter Fatima:

 “Hazrat Ali says that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) gave Fatima a dowry, a chador and a leather  He leaned on it, which was full of azhar grass. "

 But apart from this, it is not known from any history book that the Prophet (peace be upon him) gave dowry to himself and his daughters.
 It is said that when a daughter is born in one's home, one should start preparing dowry for her from then on because there is a fear in the minds of the parents that if the daughter is not given a good and very much dowry, then  The daughter should not be the target of ridicule and taunts from the in-laws. 

 Now we come to the part where we talk about the middle ground.

 Observations on the various customs and traditions on the occasion of marriage have revealed that those who do not have the space to marry their daughter in a big way but the race of the time, jealousy, jealousy and feeling inferior  People try to do as much good as possible and fall prey to the favors of their loved ones.

 Due to lack of money in the girl's marriage, the girl's close relatives, uncles, aunts and uncles pay some money for the wedding ceremonies, but in return, the family becomes grateful to them for the rest of their lives.  Because no matter how many favors Allah bestows on us, the Lord never shows it. 

 But we sinful human beings, by doing good, at some point, by any action, let us know.

 If both the families of the boy and the girl have more money, they can spend it on their own, because henna and other customs are liked by everyone, although these are customs from other nations, but if they can afford it.

  If you don't have much, then inviting fewer people to get married simply and perform the ceremony of William is a very beautiful thing and also a style.

 In this, neither the boy nor the girl should complain, nor the girl and her family.  Rather, we must understand each other's compulsions.  

It should be noted that marriage is more blessed in which there is less burden, so it is not appropriate to get married in a big way in the race of exhibition and competition and to spend money, but it is more wise to walk in moderation even if you are rich.

 In the case of dowry, the family can take whatever they want to give voluntarily or the girl can take whatever she wants to take, but it should be done keeping in view her status.  But we should not demand different things, money or dowry from our words, attitudes and actions on different occasions or on the occasion of marriage.  

There are very few people who say we don't want dowry.
 By reading and writing well, by earning well, by wearing good clothes, by wearing the best watch in hand, no boy or man becomes modern, nor by being well dressed, well dressed, with open hair, any girl or married woman is modern.  Goes  It's just good for fashion. 

 A modern and decent person is one whose world is good, who has made his life good and easy because of his good manners, good thoughts and ideas, and good morals, and by practicing religion, who spends according to his means. 

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 Encourage your future generations to do the same.  And make this beautiful relationship of your life easier, only then can we make our life a paradise.  

Let us all pledge that we will not adopt any dowry-related ritual in the future.
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 Break this ritual

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